Here’s some thoughts on the subject of Happiness. I’m no expert, but I’m a student.
Your own Happiness is your Responsibility. Not anyone else’s. If you are Unhappy, it lies within you to fix it.
People don’t make you Happy. You are reacting to the stiuation. The only 3 things we can control in life are:
- Your actions.
- Your responses to situations and your experiences.
- Your thoughts, beliefs, or attitude.
By the way, you can’t fix people. Or change them. Period.
You have to be comfortable with yourself – and love yourself.
Manage Expectations. When I suggest lower your expectations, I’m not saying lower your standards. I’m saying be a little realistic about what will happen or how it will go. For example, if you go to an event that you paid $75 for, don’t have an expectation that the food, drink, crowd and other details will be fabulous. Often that isn’t the case. But if you just expected to meet a few people, have a nice conversation with someone, and relax through the experience, your expectations are set at a more realistic level. Hence, you will be less disappointed. Less often your hopes will be shattered.
I lack Patience. If I had patience, I would likely be happier. I wouldn’t be grumpy in traffic. I think Patience makes waiting for “The One” easier. It makes the wait for the perfect job (whatever that is) easier.
Last thought: you have to have some kind of map or plan or goal – or you will just float along. Happiness and Fun take some planning. It doesn’t usually happen by itself. Enjoy the Journey.